The term “friend with benefits” means someone you have casual sex with but without any expectation other than sex. As such, rules have been developed to regulate and settle the relationship Just for sex and nothing more. It is very important that they are followed; otherwise the relationship no longer falls under the title friend with benefits.
The main benefit of such an arrangement is to be sure to have someone to have sex with but without the responsibilities attached to it. Care must be taken that she does not get pregnant, otherwise the separation will be more difficult when the time comes to part ways.
Usually, the reason to end up being friends with benefits is the fact that you can tolerate each other’s looks but not enough, that you would want to be together for the rest of your life. You are only good as sex buddies. You have not found each other as someone whom you will grow old with. You want someone a lot better than her for the real thing. Meanwhile, she can satisfy your sexual urges. The same is true for her. You are not good enough for her to be with for the rest of her life. Both of you are mere sexual toys for each other and you have agreed to that arrangement clearly from the start. Nothing should offend you or her unless one or all of the rules have been broken.
1. Never fall in love with someone who is your friend with benefits
You should understand from the very start when you agreed to become friends with benefits that none of you will fall for the other. You have agreed to be in this kind of relationship for one reason only: to satisfy your sexual desires when you need.
2. The only time you will text her is when you are asking for sex
No niceties, no updating of each other what happened during the day or the past few days. No need to be concerned. In fact, it is taboo to be concerned about anything else other than sex. The only qualified text message would be asking where and when you want to have sex. “I’m horny now. Your place or mine?”
3. Strictly no date with your friend with benefits
Dates invoke emotions and feelings are at stake. You do not want that to happen. Casual meal together is a date. Walking her home from work while updating each other, is a date. If you want a date, ask others and exclude your friend with benefits from your list.
4. Never introduce your friend with benefits to other friends
Your relationship with this person should be in secret. No one should know about her. Your friends may know that you are having such setup in your life but they should have no idea who the person is. Just imagine how awkward it would be when any of your friends (or anyone who matters to you) knows about her.
5. Jealousy is not allowed
When she has finally found someone who can be her real boyfriend, she has the right to tell you and you do not have the right to feel jealous. Parting ways should be easy since you had agreed to this kind of arrangement from the start. Everything was laid out crystal clear and you have accepted it as such. Remember that your purpose is merely to have a sex partner without the responsibilities attached to it.
Human beings are naturally unsatisfied with what is given to them including the ability to have sex with someone not limited to one’s spouse. Culture has changed and morality has downgraded over the years. Having sex with someone who is not your spouse has been accepted over the years as normal. Now it has become more categorized as friend with benefits, as if the category makes the benefits licensed. Whether you agree with it or not, a friend with benefits exists. They no longer want to go to hookers to satisfy their sexual cravings. Instead, they can call on their agreed sexual partner to fulfill what is lacking. It gives them the sense of protection against STD, at the same time making sure their sexual urge is satisfied, without the responsibilities attached to such a behavior.