Unlike traditional dating where both man and woman can see each other face to face with all the reactions and body language that each person projects clearly, it takes more effort to create that spark to get the relationship burning. With online dating, the three essential ingredients below are core because you cannot see the person in real time unless you are on a video chat. There is a possibility that the picture in the profile is not even that of the owner. Also hearing the voice of the other is sometimes impossible. If you truly want to make the most out of your relationship, both of you should do the following. If only one does his or her due diligence, the whole thing will be unsuccessful.
1. It pays to be honest all the time
How would you feel if someone whom you expected to be honest with you was actually dishonest? You will most likely doubt everything he/she says. Somehow, at the back of your mind you will be asking yourself, “Could he/she be saying that just to get what he/she wants or just to make me feel better?” If it is the other way around and you are the one being dishonest, you also might be thinking that what if he/she comes to know about it at a later stage. They can be disappointed with you to the extent of saying goodbye permanently. After all, if he/she cannot trust you now, how can you expect him/her to trust you later? It is, thus, very important that both of you trust each other and that you both have done your part to build and nurture that trust. Being trustworthy lessens the stress and makes the relationship free from worries.
2. Laughter is still one of the best medicines
Imagine a day without laughter. Life without a sense of humor will only drain you down. Life is already full of trials, tests and disappointments. Only humor can neutralize such situations to keep you sane. In a relationship, both of you should be able to make the other person laugh. At least, one should be able to crack jokes while the other can understand and reciprocate with a laugh. Since a joker has inherent humor and the recipient can still laugh even if the jokes being recited have been heard a hundred times before.
Laughing is a very good lifestyle practice, because of what it does to your body. Regular laughter lowers your blood pressure and increases the blood oxygenation. Your ABS, diaphragm, face, back, leg and respiratory muscles get a regular workout. Stress level is reduced. Frequency of cold is reduced due to the respiratory defense. Memory is increased. Alertness and creativity are also improved. So if you want to live a long and happy life, make laughing a daily habit. It is not good to do it alone, so share your laughter with others. Just like a smile, it can be given away free of cost, without losing anything.
3. Being interested gets you interesting
In a conversation, there should be a balance between talking and listening. You should not dump all the information you would like the other person to know about yourself. You have to do your part in asking questions that will make the other person tell a story. Do not simply ask questions answerable by yes or no. Most of your questions should be open-ended so that the other person will have to explain it further. It shows that you are interested in the person. The feeling should be mutual in order to enjoy with each other. The spark will only fly if both are showing interest to each other.
It may be a little difficult in finding the right person through online dating sites than it is to do it in the traditional way (where options are limited). The sparks fly can be achieved only with the right ingredients. It takes effort on both sides but when it works, it is usually for a lifetime. Make sure that honesty is always present. Without trust, it will never be given. Making life sprinkled with laughter makes life easier to live and having a balance between being a listener and a talker makes the relationship interesting for both.