Have you ever wondered why certain men attract women even if they do not have the certain facial features that would categorize them as handsome? While many women get attracted to handsome men, most women do not look at mere physical goodness alone.
How women size up a man
Being naturally good with multitasking, women are good at spotting different aspects of a man’s personality all at once. Also, while men are basically led by what they see, women are generally led by what they feel. That is why looks matter only for a small fraction of the whole being of a man. A ‘Zen’ man can be categorically described as an alpha man or alpha male. It is being dominant about his masculinity. It is a state of being.
Qualities that women want in alpha men
Women are attracted to a keen mind. If he’s clever, smart and has an eidetic memory, that alone makes women follow a man to witness how his mind works. It will be clear that he has an ambition. He does not want to be one of the average people. He loves adventure and wants to live life to the fullest. His values are high. He’s got principles. His social skills are great, although, he is not aggressive. He is not a scatterbrain. He is stable. He’s got a good sense of healthy lifestyle, thus, he’s fit. He knows how to balance and how to maintain harmony. He does not project a false image of himself. He is optimistic, trustworthy and keeps his promises. He is confident and comfortable about his sexuality.
Character traits that turn off women
Some of the character traits that turn off women are being aggressive, abusive (verbally, physically, mentally, emotionally or sexually), selfish, deceitful, arrogant, a liar, inconsiderate, mean, forceful, obnoxious and bulky. Some men show these negative traits in online dating sites, and when they do, they ruin their chances of being in a relationship.
What she really wants
What a woman really wants is for a man to be a man, someone who is not afraid to be a real man. She needs a man who wants to have a woman in his life and is not afraid to be the leader. He is not afraid to lose anything, not even the woman. He is not afraid to climb the ladder of success. He wants power and he uses it. He shows his personality without being shy about it. He does not pretend. Hence, what she sees is what he really is. The whole being of that man excites her, even if he does not look as handsome as any usual “handsome guy.” Even one sign from a man’s profile, that shows he is not the Zen man she is looking for, will act fast in discarding that profile. Even if she took the compatibility test, if she is aware of what a Zen man is, she will not stop until she finds that “perfect man” for her. Only when she cannot find such a man, she may lower down her minimum standard. Even if she has lowered her standard down, she will still continue to be on the lookout for her ideal man.
So, why are women attracted to Zen men?
Women are attracted to Zen men because they make women feel like a real woman. A real woman’s femininity is enhanced, appreciated and maximized. She feels as a whole. Getting married to a zen man will be one of her main goals in life because without him, she is incomplete. With him, she gets to live the good life, which all women desire. With him, she is a part of the whole because he completes her.
Women size up men differently from a man sizing up a woman. While men focus on the looks, it is, for women, one of the last considerations. Women will focus on the inner man. What is he made of? What is his character? What moves him? How does he react in certain circumstances? How does he treat other people? How does he treat women? How does he treat people who are giving him a hard time? Even if she is unable to find the “perfect” man, she will consider men who are nearly perfect but will continue to hunt for the ideal, depending on the time she has left for whatever age goal she has set for her marriage.