How to Be Different: Get Ahead of 95% of the Competition With the Advice in this Section
SUMMING IT UP : 95% of the men and women on dating sites act the same. They create similar profiles, send similar boring emails, and go after the same people. What they don’t realize is by doing this they are limiting the amount of people they will meet. Being different than everyone else is the best way to get noticed by quality singles online.
The biggest mistake online daters make is to join a dating site and immediately start copying the profile styles of other members of the same sex. If everyone is doing it a certain way, it must be the correct way…correct? INCORRECT! The truth is most people do not get a date on a dating site within the first month. The biggest reason for that is they don’t know how to stand out.
Following in the footsteps of failures is something only a complete fool would do. You’re better than that. Those boring profiles you read aren’t appealing. When we read a woman’s profile and see stuff like “I have a super fun personality and a great sense of humor” and then displays absolutely no “super fun personality” or a great sense of humor in the profile.
The thing is anyone can say they are fun, outgoing, down to earth, etc. That doesn’t mean they actually are. On the flip side, having a boring profile doesn’t mean you’re a boring person. It could mean you’re just not a great writer or don’t understand the online dating game.
However, regardless of what you’re trying to get across to women, they’re going to assume you are what your profile makes you out to be. So if your profile is boring, they’ll assume you’re boring. If it’s full of jokes, they’ll assume you’re a goofball. If it’s a mix of humor and interesting stories/descriptions of what you’re into, they’ll assume you’re a fun dude.
Women love a sense of humor, but not TOO much humor…
It’s true that a sense of humor is a desirable trait in men. But there is a fine line between making a woman laugh through humor and annoying her with your jokes. For example, racist jokes might be a lot of fun to tell your buddies. But you’ll come off as a jackass if you’re busting out racist jokes either in your profile or in discussions with women.
A sense of humor is needed to attract women. But you really have to be careful with how offensive your jokes are and how often you’re incorporating jokes into a discussion. If everything you say is a joke, she’ll never take your seriously. The best way to stand out online is by showing that you have both a sense of humor and a serious side.