Your First Email Makes or Breaks the Interaction: What to Write and Why!
SUMMING IT UP : It’s not hard to write a perfect online dating first email. But it is CRUCIAL to create one that gets her attention. The first email is the only opportunity you will have to make a first impression when working good online dating sites. There are no second chances online. It’s either impress her right off the bat or never have a chance with her.
There are 4 parts an online dating first email. You absolutely MUST knock ‘em dead in ALL 4 parts…
- Subject line
Now let’s go over the 4 parts and how you should write them…
SUBJECT LINE: It needs to be catchy. It should not be a simple “hi” or “hey sexy”. This is the most important part in our opinion. The reason for that is because if she isn’t enticed to open up the email nothing else matters. What’s wrong with a simple “hi”? After all, it’s a friendly greeting. True, but it’s also the same greeting as hundreds of other guys will send her. You need yours to stand out.
INTRODUCTION: Like the subject line, this needs to be catchy. The introduction is the part of the email that will hook her into reading the body of the email. It’s the second most important part of the email. A bad introduction will make her want to close out of your email.
BODY: The body is where you need to add some substance to the email. You hooked her with a catchy subject line and introduction. Now it’s time to show her what you’re all about. The body should be short and sweet and focused on HER interests and what you have in common. Therefore, you better read her profile thoroughly. It’s important to personalize the body.
CONCLUSION: We always include a question at the end of the email. It’s very easy to do. A simple “care to chat this evening?” will suffice. It doesn’t have to be something very creative. The purpose is to gauge her interest in getting to know you. Nothing more, nothing less.
Online Dating Tips First Email: 3 Examples of Emails That Won’t Be Responded to Favorably
The following 3 emails were actual messages sent to a female on Match . These are emails that you should NEVER send…unless you have no interest in actually meeting people and just want to mess around…
Email #1: The “I’m just looking for sex” email
“I know this is a dating site but I don’t really care. I’m not looking for anything serious. I just want a hookup. I’m tired of relationships and dealing with crazy women. You’re incredibly sexy so I think we should hookup. Whatcha got going on this Friday?”
WHY THIS EMAIL SUCKS: It’s not that you can’t find a hookup on a traditional dating site. But you should NEVER be upfront about your intentions. Hey, if you just want to go on dates with girls with the sole purpose of hooking up, do it. We aren’t going to judge you. Just don’t expect to get laid if you are upfront about it in the first online dating message you send her.
Email #2: The “I’m a boring guy” email
“Hello there, my name is Pat. I’m 36 years old and live in a small town. I like to fish and camp and play my video games. I think you are very pretty and would like to get to know you better. You should send me a message back and we can get to talking. Look forward to it.
WHY THIS EMAIL SUCKS: Pat might be a very interesting guy, but he was unable to show it in the email. How would the recipient of the email know that he’s interesting based on this email? There’s no humor. He doesn’t appear to be charming. He seems very boring. That won’t get you the girl.
Email #3: The “I’m a negative guy” email
“I’m so fed up with women. All they ever do is treat me like dirt. It’s funny how women always complain about men treating them like crap but they don’t admit that sometimes they do the same thing to guys. For once I just want to find a decent woman that won’t cheat on me or try to use me for my money. This site is making it hard for me to believe that will ever happen. Maybe you’re not like that, however. Would you like to chat?”
WHY THIS EMAIL SUCKS: Ask any girl and she’ll tell you one of the biggest turn offs is a negative guy. If you want to be attractive online you MUST have a positive attitude and showcase that. Do you want to date a woman that is negative? Didn’t think so.
Characteristics of a GREAT Online Dating Email Message…
- Shows you have a sense of humor but isn’t TOO funny (no offensive jokes either).
- Asks a question at the end (preferably something along the lines of inviting her to do something such as chat via IM or go out for dinner).
- Has a catchy subject line and introduction (grab her attention right off the bat or lose her interest immediately).
- Includes some sort of reference to something from her profile (you have to personalize an email to make it appear to NOT be canned).